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How far will this go?

Only you know the answer to this one.

Once you start down the path, it's very easy to get so caught up in it that you end up rushing headlong into something you may well regret for the rest of your life. The best advice we can give is:

Talk. Talk with your friends, your spouse, your family, your employer, your doctor; all of them will enter the picture at some point. Keep them in the loop so you can keep them onside. Talk to other transsexuals. Join a support group.

Listen. Listen to your friends, your spouse, your family, your employer, your doctor. There will be questions, insghts, knowledge from all of them.

Learn. Read all you can about what's involved. Find out what will happen to you as you take various steps. Make sure you're always able to make informed decisions.

Be patient. You have your whole life in front of you; don't screw it up. Take the time to do it right.

Love yourself. Whatever you do, don't go into transition because you hate who you are; all that will have changed is the body. Approach it with the attitude that you are worth working on, that you are worth all the time, money, pain and disruption it takes to bring your whole self into harmony.

Act. Finally, when you absolutely know what you must do, do it.



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